4 Tips On Protecting Yourself From Negativity
By Lori Morrison
“Dwelling on negativity simply contributes to its power” – Shirley Maclaine”
Most negative people are steeped in their vulnerabilities. To feel powerful, they place themselves as the ultimate judge of those around them. They are often in attack mode, striking out at you or gossiping behind your back to construct an image of you low and powerless. Many come from a place of the wounded child where they blame everything and everyone for all the trauma and neglect they have endured. Self-pity abounds and others are at fault and they resist forgiveness as they have the misperception that it weakens them.
Most are addicted to negative thoughts yet they say, “I am a positive person” only because they have built such a high assessment of themselves by putting everyone else down. Their truths are shaky as they twist and turn them until someone else is at fault. Self-focused and rarely interested in others as their compassion is at a minimum. Negative people look for those who are willing listeners that accept all their wrongs as rights to their anger. They admire those who are negative like they are for their willingness to authenticate and fuel their negative frenzy. More often people are complaining having no authentic friends, never get invited to be around positive people and can wind up very lonely, and it is all everyone’s fault.
Negative people are toxic. If you are a kind and giving person, you have probably fallen into a trap set by this debilitating behavior.
So, what to do if you have negative people in your life?
Here are four steps:
1.) State of the Union:
Make it very clear how you feel about negativity. Tell them that in your world you do not talk negatively about others and you do not listen to statements about others that are unkind. Often, that will give your negative friend or family member nothing to talk to you about and that is a sure sign that your role has been as an enabler. If they no longer want to hang out with you or call you, you were feeding a negative frenzy and by cutting them off you sent them packing. This reaction validates for you that it was time to move on, since you were nothing more than a dumpster for negative thoughts. If they continue to call and don’t follow the rules, remind them of your boundaries and make it stick!
2.) Stay Powerful:
Keep your power intact. When they want to go into lower energies, you go high. For example, when they say You are not looking very good t0day? You react to the contrary with I am feeling great and you look wonderful too. This keeps you high. It is important to realize that positive energies are much more powerful than negative ones although at times we may think otherwise. When someone is screaming, and blaming we may have the perception that it is powerful but positivity reigns.
3.) The Choice of Letting Go:
Nothing says that you have an obligation to anyone in your life, especially those who want to remain invested in negativity. Unfortunately, one of the hardest things to do is to walk away from close friends or family when the goal has always been to get along at any cost. Calling it quits does not have to be a drama. After you have tried steps one and two, if they still wish to remain disrespectful of your personal “rules” then it is time to realize that you have a choice and embrace the power of letting go.
When that negative person says “why don’t you take my calls? or why don’t you want to hang out anymore? You simply say “I choose to be with positive people and you have not been respectful about that. Should that change I would be happy to engage with you again. If not, I wish you well.”
4.) Last Resort:
If you absolutely cannot avoid that person, you will need to build and maintain your personal power station. Before you meet, breath in powerful energy, and as you exhale, create a large bubble around you. Cover the surface of the bubble with white light and ask a higher power to bring protection to you. Walk into the world with the intention that no matter what is said it cannot influence you. Do not take anything personally. and remember to stay high with comments like “I choose not to go there orI choose not to see things that way”.
Do not condemn their negativity or judge them as they have judged you. Just accept them for who they are and know that all their negative comments are 100% about what’s really bothering them. Realize that you cannot change them, you can only change how you deal them. Do not dwell on it, let them go and send them positive energy that amidst all the negativity they will somehow find peace. How light and peaceful you will feel after they walk out of your life is surprising.
Take inventory of the negative people around you and apply these rules. Finally, take an assessment of yourself and make sure that you are maintaining your truth and holding up your “rules” of no-negativity too, since negativity breeds negativity.
From the other side of life,
Lori Morrison
About the Author
Lori Morrison is a “concierge” to the spiritual world and a “soul intuitive” for those seeking connection and support in their life journeys. Combining her skills as a coach, spiritual counselor, shamanic healer and psychic intuitive she has built a successful practice located in Sedona, Arizona where she works with clients from all over the world. The author is especially gifted in supporting those who have experienced trauma and grief and other debilitating life experiences using alternative methods and ancient wisdom. By changing the perspective of mental illness from despair to the emergence of a creative gift it can lead to dramatic shifts in the possibility of recovery.
